15 Signs That You’ve Found “The One”

Before you say “I do”, you must be sure that the person you are saying “I do” to is willing to go
through life with you, ‘for better or for worse, and until death do you part two part.’

But how do you know you’ve found the one? Gut feel? Intuition?

1. You can be your real self with him/her

Reaching that level of comfort is an important sign that you are indeed with “the one”. With your
love, you can never feel anxious showing her or him all the sides of you; the good, the bad, the
weird, or the “I’m hungover and I haven’t showered in 3 days” ugly. You can even fart at each
other! Not having to hide your silly self is very important if your relationship is to last.

Commonly, we hold the notion of putting our best foot forward especially in the early stages of
our relationship. That’s true. That’s important. But embracing each other’s imperfection, is a
whole new level of commitment and love. It’s the phase of the relationship where both of you
have established and accepted the fact that you love each other, no matter what. Imperfections
even spice up your relationship more.

2. Similar life goals

It is said that if somebody loves you, that someone would never try to change who you are.
Nonetheless, we change once we meet someone worth the change. So, change, especially in
terms of long-term life outlook, isn’t really imposed, it’s something you yourself wholeheartedly
accepted. You know you’ve met your better half when you want to walk similar paths in this
thing we call life.

Maybe both of you have different fantasies of where you want to travel, or what
kind of dog you’ll want to have. But when it comes down to the major things, like deciding
whether you want to get married and/or have children, you two are holding the same deck of
cards. And you both are holding the winning hand.

3. You can work through things in a healthy way

Fighting or arguments is an integral part of any relationship. A relationship without fights is not a
genuine relationship. But for two people loving each other genuinely, it doesn’t really matter that
you and your partner fight, it’s how you fight that makes all the difference.

A relationship with somebody you may want to be with forever, involves fights that won’t make you feel like putting a Rubik’s Cube back together. A fight between to people genuinely in love is always settled with a resolution. You two can get through anything together, and knowing that makes you feel safe and secure. No doubts. No buts. You simply work things out.

4. You feel like the luckiest person in the world

You know that magical feeling, and that funny moment when you suddenly smile all by yourself
because you simply remembered how lucky you are to have been with someone you truly love
and someone who truly cares for you? When you both feel like the luckiest person in the world
to have found one other, you’re on the right path.

The strongest and happiest of couples feel in awe of each other. Each day, you will never run
out of things to be impressed about your partner. Surprises simply never ceases. You surprise
each other each passing day, and you definitely fall in love with each other over and over again.

5. You both are committed to the relationship

You can only say “I do” to somebody who can truly go on with you ‘for better or for worse, til
death do you two part’. And that person ought not be the first person to jump off the boat
becomes shaky.

A companion you want for life is a person who is committed to you and the relationship. If you
have found the person who’d do everything to make things work out between the two of you,
and always goes the extra mile to fix whatever needs fixing in your relationship, you probably
have found the one.

6. Anywhere is exciting for you two

Home is where your heart is, they say. Well, yes. The place doesn’t matter, more often than not,
it’s who you’re with. You don’t have to be at Disneyland or at the best local bar in town to be
having the time of your life with your significant other. Excitement can happen in your own room
(of course, it always does). Some of the best dates you two have had together were those
nights you both stayed up late, finishing a DVD series and just sharing the stuff you both enjoy.

7. Your friends and family see how happy you are

You have a halo. You glow. You are blooming. Oh, they know. They know you are happy. The
people closest to you know you are having a great time with your life. In fact, they’ll keep
taunting you to marry that girl, or guy. Or, to make lots of babies soon enough. Your family and
friends couldn’t be happier for you, and some of them are probably a little envious of the love
you have found.

8. You are more than just in love.

There’s this song that says: “Love ain’t enough.” Well, yes, it takes more than love to forge a
relationship that’ll last a lifetime. Even though you both are madly in love — love isn’t just what
this relationship has to offer you.

9. You know deep down inside.

You’ve figured out that you’ve met “the one” because you feel it in your heart. And you feel it in
your gut. Our intuition tells us how generally we feel or vibe something. We have it for a reason,
and often, intuition could extremely be correct.

10. He or she makes you want to be better

A good partner is one that accepts you for who you are. A great partner, on the other hand,
accepts you and loves you for who you are, but also pushes you to be your best. You know
you’ve met the ultimate better half when they make you want to be better.

11. You Share Everything

Your partner wears your socks to work (oh but please don’t tell me you wear your partner’s
undergarments, too), and you always finish off their meals. You feel like you both are the same
person.

12. You Trust Each Other

It was Cupid who said that “there is no love, where there is no trust”. So, trust is pretty much a
big deal. So, if this is missing in your relationship. Get out of it. Fast.
But when you feel safe and secured with each other, and you trust each other in all
aspects,that’s a good sign. Relationships founded on mutual trust and respect, prove to be the
toughest relationships.

13. You’re Both Fine With Sitting In Silence

Silences are never awkward. Just the presence of each other is more than enough. Having
been together this long, you know a profound and quiet hug is all you need at times you need it
the most. No words. Just presence.

14. You Never Feel Like They Aren’t Listening To You

You know those moments when you simply needed ears? Partners who truly care for each
other, care for whatever they say. In a study, it was shown that partners who pay attention to whatever their partner lasted in the relationship longer than those who find their partners’ ranting to be annoying and say ‘care less’ about their non-sense rants. So, put those ears to better use. And, if you are confident you’ve got your partner’s ears, you’re lucky.

15. You’re Best Friends As Well As Partners

Truth is, you’ll hardly know the difference: “Are we really partners, or best friends?” That’s
because you are both. There’s not a feeling more profound than the feeling that your lifetime-
partner-to-be is your best friend.

I remember my lady professor once told us to always choose the person who you can talk to
without ever feeling bored, or someone like your best friend, cause time will come when you
both won’t be able to do things like… you know, what typical boyfriends and girlfriends do when
they are alone (blissful seclusion is what they call it, right?)

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